I have been watching WWYD (What Would You Do) videos, and I have come to the conclusion that some people can’t see the harm in emotional abuse.
This isn’t just something that you see on the street but exists in the companies I have worked in as well. For example, one time I spoke to an executive because of the emotional abuse I saw in my department. He said that his feelings get hurt, but that doesn’t make it emotional abuse. I looked at him and was at a loss for how to try to get him to understand the effect of emotional abuse.
Emotional intelligence is the ability to be aware of your own emotions and that of others. Some people just can’t understand that emotions have such a profound impact on others. It is unfortunate that business has too many bosses who never become leaders. Leaders are aware of emotional intelligence, and bosses are just bullies who seek power and intimidation.
I love watching WWYD videos and have shared many of them here. They can be very touching. It is inspirational to see others stand up and defend those who don’t have a voice. It is so wonderful to see the kindness and generosity of others who want to help others. It is hopeful that old, young and everyone is watching out for others.
I do not allow emotional abuse to happen in my presence. I will always call out jerks who can’t control their own emotions and hurt others. It doesn’t matter if it is a boss, a friend, or a president. When you are a jerk, this behavior is not normal and will never be acceptable. Anyone who is a jerk deserves condemnation and no support.
When companies are jerks to their employees I don’t support them. That’s why I wrote Companies to Avoid and Companies to Use. We all have a choice about being emotionally sensitive to others. Supporting jerks encourages their behavior. One day they will be a jerk to you. Then who is going to stand up for you?