It is important to stay centered and more so for an HSP.
How can we do that? There are lots of suggestions online. Here are the ones that have helped me.
- Meditation and quiet time. Just taking a break from all the activity close your eyes and let any tension go. Whenever you feel tension you have to let it go. We hold onto tension thinking it will help us, but it drains us.
- See some kind of doctor regularly. It doesn’t have to be a medical person some kind of self-care person. For example a few days ago I had my dental cleaning. I learned that I was pressing too hard with my toothbrush so I bought a round head electric toothbrush that will arrive today. It will beep if I press too hard. I will throw away the classic toothbrush and not allow my anxiety to affect my gum health.
- Limit the news. It is important to know what is going on in the world, but doom scrolling doesn’t help. We often get into loops where we feel bad but we keep scrolling on social media. If you are reading social media and you feel bad then stop reading it.
- Be grateful. When I feel anxious I remember all of the positive and helpful things I have to be grateful for. I have a wonderful life now the best I have ever had. I feel so grateful to be where I am now. Even though my life isn’t perfect, I have what I need and almost everything I want. The only last thing that I want is to feel centered.
- Letting go of things isn’t giving up. We have this mistaken idea that if we let go of the control we want to get the things we need we won’t have those things. For example some people feel they need to control others, so that they will be loved. We have to encourage others to find their voice and speak the truth of who they are.
- Let go of toxic things. You can’t be emotionally and intellectually peaceful if you are going to extremes. You have to remove people from your life that hurt you. As that video I shared earlier said: You can’t fix stupid, you can’t heal toxic. Loving people harder doesn’t make them love you back. The moment you realize this you are free. I often have to remind myself of this.
Self-care and being centered is an ongoing process. We will make mistakes but with time it will become second nature. It is so wonderful to make progress in becoming peaceful.