If you want to make a difference in the world, speak the experience that only you can voice.
One of the touching books I read in my life was called “The 8th habit”. It said that finding your voice and helping others find theirs was an important skill.
As soon as I read that I decided that I would do what I could to live that. I would approach relationships with the idea of giving people a chance to speak who they are, and to not judge them as much as possible.
I learned from wise examples in my own life that people who accepted me, transformed my life. I felt that if they believed in me, I could believe in me as well.
We can show our most help to others by encouraging and trusting others to speak who they are. By being nonjudgmental we give them space to be themselves. It is also a much easier way to exist and to be happy.
In fact I would say that the more I can accept myself and others, the happier I have been. The most unhappy people are the ones who try to force others to live as they want, because they hate themselves and they aren’t happy in their own life.
Be silent and give others the opportunity to open up and share who they are. Speak honestly and sincerely and you will find some people who respond to that. Others will be suspicious and think you are manipulating them, and that ok. You don’t need everyone to love you. In fact, if everyone loves you, they probably are projecting who they think you are and don’t know the real you. No one is wonderful enough for everyone love who is a normal human.
Perhaps some religious/spiritual people have attained a quality of character that would make others love them, but I haven’t seen that in history so I doubt it. Most spiritual people are killed, so being loving should come with a health warning.