People prefer style over substance

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One of the things you realize in life is that people prefer style over substance.

Here are my thoughts. The people who had the most substance, people who were full of love toward humanity and wanted us to live in peace and harmony weren’t listened to. However, if there is a new fashion or thing to sell, then capitalism latches onto that at the earliest opportunity, doesn’t it? Instead of growing as a civilization, we are just looking like a Ferengi for the next opportunity.

Social media reflects this narcissism. People lie on LinkedIn to appear to be something they are not. They make ridiculous posts to create a persona of who they are, and they pander to the audience and people just eat it up. They eat it up. If you try to have a nuanced or intelligent conversation, people are like “Na, ain’t nobody got time for that.”

This isn’t about the rising tide of stupidity, but rather the lack of willingness for people to engage authentically with each other. One of the things that I did in my jobs was respect each person and authentically engage with someone. I have always been surprised at the games that people play with each other. I won’t do that. I’d rather be homeless than engage with non-sincere people.

Yet it has been my experience that most people are non-sincere. They don’t want to get to know you. They don’t see you as anything other than a stepping stone to their greater success. People will tell you one thing, and then stab you in the back.

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Am I bitter? No, I’m realistic. People are afraid and mostly without morals. To them, the ends justify the means. I have had discussions with coworkers about ethics and morality and their lack of it frightens me. I understand why terrible things have happened to humanity in the past. People constantly devalue and make others subhuman. They think they are evil or wrong because they are different.

If adults have consent with another adult, it is none of our business what those two adults do. Bodily autonomy is the basic right of every living being. Why is this so hard to understand?

But we do understand the latest styles and fashions and trends don’t we? We know how our monkey should dress outwardly, but we have no idea of what it takes to be human and real.