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How to get results without being a jerk

'I lost all respect for my Organ Grinder when I realized he was not playing but merely turning the handle! That's when I left him...'

How to get results without being a jerk. In life, we all have challenges in getting our needs met.

How to get results without being a jerk

  1. Begin with the end in mind. Every interaction you should have what you want clearly in mind. If you talk to a support person without a plan, you have already failed. The end should be the continuation of the service or product you paid for, or the cessation of some annoying thing that just started. For example, companies who put you on their mailing list you didn’t opt-in for.
  2. 'I lost all respect for my Organ Grinder when I realized he was not playing but merely turning the handle! That's when I left him...'
    ‘I lost all respect for my Organ Grinder when I realized he was not playing but merely turning the handle! That’s when I left him…’

    Treat the person with respect. Yes, that person represents the company, but affirm their humanity and treat them as you want to be treated. Sometimes when I feel the frustration of the process I’ve encountered, I stop and say to the person I’m talking to “It is not you, it’s just the situation I find frustrating.” They usually empathize with me and agree that they would be frustrated too. It is easy to go on a rant when you have to go over and over the same information with different representatives.

  3. Ask if what you are asking for sounds reasonable. You are not asking them to agree with you, but just be in the ballpark of what you want. For example, I had a company that said I was late paying a bill and I was not. I never received the bill, and they had the wrong address on file for me. Even though I had given the company my current address when I bought that product, their systems had messed up, and tried to blame me. When I explained this to the representative and pointed out my payment history and credit score that qualified me for this product, she fixed the issue. You don’t have to threaten to get what you want. Asking and kindness work far better than empty threats.
  4. Even if you are going to sue, give them a chance to fix the problem. Ok so maybe the issue was big and really caused you a problem. Even if you plan to sue them, give them a chance to fix the problem once more. Most companies are not bad on purpose but by ignorance. Most companies I have seen have a difficult time giving a good customer experience. I have called plenty of outsourced call centers, where I could barely understand what was being said and the steps were things I have already done, but I went through the process anyway. You have to be patient to go through the process. Then when the process fails, suggest what will fix it.
  5. Share all the information on how you tried to fix the problem yourself. It is the most common experience for customer service people to have to explain basic concepts to people who are ignorant of the product or service. By doing all the troubleshooting you can up front, you save both them and yourself time by not having to go through all the time-consuming steps usually communicated by someone less knowledgeable than yourself. For example, I had a piece of equipment fail and so I did all the troubleshooting steps I could think of and then called the support number. Once I had the rep on the line I explained everything I did and asked what more I could have done. He said that I had done everything that could be done, and sent me a new part immediately. Otherwise, it would have been an awkward multi-hour call while all those troubleshooting steps would be done.

The key here is in making yourself an ally or supporting the tech support person you are talking to. People who know and do this are really appreciated by those overworked and underpaid people. They know that it is a real issue and it also helps them mark cases as solved on the first call. Being good at your job is not just being able to do it, but also finding ways to be more efficient at it.

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