Seek out opinions that differ from your own

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What I learned from watching Archie Bunker, is that an ignorant person has a reason for believing as they do.

In that vein I watch videos from Kevin Samuels and Hannah Pearl Davis. I have learned information from both of them that I both agree and disagree with.

What I like about both of them is that they offer a different point of view on relationships. Both of them have some other unsavory ideas, and of course they are both hypocrites, but they provide at times surprising arguments and facts.

Why do I watch these two rather than others? I don’t watch people who aren’t honest with facts. I have tried to watch others and then I question something they say that is factual and when I find out it isn’t true I can’t watch them anymore. I am not saying that Samuels/Pearl are always saying the truth, its just that for the most part they stick with facts.

In some ways they give me insight into things that I would never understand otherwise. Even though I have dated black women, Kevin Samuels has helped me to understand black culture better. Black women I dated even said the things that Kevin has said.

In the same view Pearl has given me an insight into women that I lacked. I didn’t get the real truth about how women think/value/act until I saw her interview them and ask questions. I understand that Pearl has honestly come to her beliefs based on her experience with women.

This means that we can’t just ignore people we disagree with. Most people have very good reasons why they believe as they do. It takes time to talk and listen and understand another point of view. By listening to both of these people I have often stopped the video and asked myself, was I wrong in thinking in a certain way? Is there truth that I can learn here?

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I have to admit that at times I admire Kevin/Pearls questioning of their guests and their attempt to sincerely understand what they think. While I don’t always agree with their conclusions, it gives me a different perspective and one that I wouldn’t have thought from myself.

You know that old saying there are three sides to the truth? Your side, their side and the truth? I think we get closer to the truth, the more we examine our thoughts and feelings with others. I appreciate that they ask questions, instead of just proclaiming things and then trying to find evidence for it.

I’m not suggesting that you watch or they represent what I believe. I do think they are one of the more thoughtful people who have differing opinions to my own.