People automatically reject others. It is crazy.
I watched a YouTube video that had a woman in her 40’s who wasn’t attractive, and 5 unattractive men in their 40’s as well. The first thing each of them said to the other was to reject them. The man scolded the woman for not wearing nail polish (she was a nurse and said she couldn’t wear it for professional reasons) and the woman scolded the man for being unattractive. I thought to myself, well no doubt this is why they are single.
The same thing happens in job interviews. Both sides are often guilty of coming into an interview with preconceived ideas. For example, I research companies on Glassdoor and other review sites and often those ratings are poor. If I get an interview with a company like this then I am cautious about working there. I ask more questions about the culture and details than I normally would.
Similarly companies that are interviewing a person that they have doubts about ask more questions and try to get details as well. It is natural that both parties feel that their cooperation is a win/win for both.
I don’t think though that you can approach dating like business. First of all dating deals with the heart and more than just being compatible, do you want to be with this person for the rest of your life? I think we often don’t ask ourselves enough honest questions before we start dating someone. I know I was guilty of this in the past.
Now before I get into any situation I carefully ask myself what I hope to get out of it. I still give people a chance to be themselves and share who they are with me. If you can’t give people a chance to be themselves, then don’t bother wasting others time talking to them.