Don’t worry if you rub someone the wrong way. Not everyone is going to appreciate you.
For example, I have been told by coworkers that I am too happy, cheerful, and loud. Other coworkers said I was emotionless, neutral, and quiet. At the same job and during the same time of day and place. Many people love to find fault with others. It prevents them from recognizing and working on improving themselves. The people who find the most fault with others are the most unhappy people, and you can’t fix unhappy people.
It is unfortunate but we work with lots of mentally sick people. People have issues. You can’t let other people’s issues affect you. Does this mean you can’t be empathic/sympathetic? Not at all. You can have any emotion you want, but you don’t need to be forced to have an emotion just because it makes it easier for someone else’s comfort.
I’ll give you an example. I shared before how I was yelled at by former bosses. They didn’t know how to handle their emotions so they took it out on me. I didn’t do anything that deserved to be yelled at-they were just jerks. Some people are jerks and they enjoy making others suffer. If you have that try to limit the time you spend around them, and if you can’t limit the time then change jobs. Your mental health is worth more than a paycheck.
Too often we stay in situations that don’t help us. You know when it’s time to leave. Listen to your inner voice and go!