One of the things that I see with others is that they overthink things.
Part of this is because I spend time around people who are perfectionists because I used to be one. Now that I have transformed into a slob, I don’t care about that anymore.
Yes I still do things to the best of my ability, but I have let go needing to be perfect and admit when I am wrong. Today for example a coworker misunderstood what I was saying and said I was wrong in a private DM. I didn’t argue, I said great I love to be wrong.
If it turns out that what I said works, then great. I don’t need to be right or have people think I am smart to know that I am contributing.
When you grow up you don’t look for external validation. You exist because you know you can help others, and if others find it helpful well good for them.