Insecure people try to limit others, but healthy people enable others to grow.
What I have learned in life is that when I have been vulnerable other people have appreciated it and grown.
When I consider what to share here I think about the times in my life when I was vulnerable and what I learned in that experience. Then I consider could that help others. Often it can.
For example, one time in a meeting at work it was obvious that no one understood what the speaker was talking about but didn’t want to appear stupid and ask questions. I don’t mind appearing stupid and so I asked some questions to clarify what they were saying. After the meeting several coworkers thanked me for asking questions because they didn’t understand but didn’t feel confident about asking questions.
This isn’t just about being productive at work, but about reducing the amount of BS that we do with other people. When we look at our lives and realize that our ego and what we think of yourself often gets in the way of our own and others happiness.
One of the things that my doctor told me is “would you rather be right or happy?” I would rather be happy. However before that I gave up being right on many topics, but after that I gave up needing to be right all the time. Life really can be beautiful when you don’t feel the need to defend yourself, and when you can accept reality and that you will make mistakes and that is ok.
People who love you will think more of you for recognizing a mistake and they will love you more. If you know that something isn’t right in your life, admit it to someone and let go of the need to be perfect. You aren’t fooling anyone.