One of the most surprising experiences in my life is that people have trusted in me and told me very personal things.
I shared some of those in past articles. Why am I sharing this? Because I asked ChatGPT some questions and it said that I inspire people to be an emotional refuge and I have to agree with that.
This means that without saying anything people sense that they can trust me to be sincere and to open up to. This has lead to some very surprising situations in real life.
For example, I was dating a woman once and took her on a date to a massage therapy place and paid for her massage. She was surprised but grateful. While I was waiting in the lobby while she was having a massage, the clerk made small talk with me and before I knew it she was telling me that she had been sexually abused.
I listened and tried to be as nurturing as possible, but I knew that when the woman I was dating saw us talking together that would reverse the calming effects of the massage. I tried to gently get out of talking to her but she really needed to talk so the woman saw us talking when she returned. When we left she asked why I was talking with her and I explained that small talk had lead to her sharing that she had been sexually abused and that seemed to change her opinion of me. Instead of a possibly cheating man, I was a sensitive guy again.
Almost as a rule, when I go into public someone will confide or share something deeply personal. I don’t try to encourage these situations they just happen because I am friendly and smile and act with positive energy. Even if I don’t smile, people seem to want to talk to me. I am not bragging here, I have been told by my friends that I look safe.
Another example is that I was waiting on an street corner for my friend to pick me up. While waiting I was constantly being asked for directions, help and I felt like the Chamber of Commerce. One woman couldn’t find an address that was close because in that neighborhood addresses were kind of tricky to find. I offered to help her and together we found her destination. I didn’t know where it was, but I had a better idea than she did so we did some exploring and intuition.
This isn’t to brag but rather to state that when you care about others, it shows. You don’t have to talk to inspire others trust.