Lets be honest with ourselves. We think we need to experience things because we don’t want to miss out on a full life. Fear of missing out, and fear in general is more due to ignorance than real danger.
I’ll give you an example. Many people including myself have felt hurt when we didn’t get the job that we felt we were perfect for. However in time, what happened to us instead was even better than what we thought would happen if we got the job that we felt we were perfect for. Things may look attractive from the outside of the experience, but the reality inside is much different.
I spoke before how about I helped and went to the home of very rich millionaires/billionaires. Studies show that the more wealth people have the unhappier they are. This is not about wealth or money, but rather that things are rarely as we think they are.
In my life I have put myself into situations that seemed helpful from the outside of the experience, but once I was in it, it hurt me and others. I had to leave those hurtful experiences. If we are honest with ourselves, many experiences in our life have hurt us more than helped us and we need to be wiser in saying no to opportunities.
In jobs/dating I learned that I had to raise my standards with time because what I assumed to be true about people was not true. I always expected the best from people, but unfortunately got the worst. Or perhaps it was their best, but it wasn’t enough to be respectful and healthy. I have tolerated much disrespectful behavior in the past, but I won’t do that anymore. When people are abusive and HR/company doesn’t act on it, it says all that you need to know about the culture. It is time to move on, and your life will be happier because of it.
We don’t need much in life to be happy. Consider before you want something, what you are looking to get out of it. If there isn’t some reasonable assurance that you can get that, then don’t do it.