I was thinking today about things in my life that have been a waste of time. I don’t regret doing them but I wish I could have found something more helpful to do. With help from ChatGPT.
- Mindless entertainment – As a kid and as an adult I have tried to escape with video games, social media or TV shows/movies. It never really works and just feels unsatisfying.
- Pointless arguments – This is a waste of energy. People online don’t want to be educated and they are mostly close minded. Very few people have the emotional intelligence and courage to look at their beliefs.
- Gossip and drama – I absolutely never do this. If a coworker tries to suck me in to gossip I tell them I am not interested and if they don’t stop I leave. This is destructive and unkind.
- Chasing status symbols – I learned long ago that expensive things was a waste of time/money and frustrating as well. I don’t get validation from others. It comes from inside. People outside will validate you if it helps them, and you can be homeless if you depend on the love and kindness of others. I don’t believe anything anyone says because its BS. People will only act when in it is in their self-interest. I have done many things that aren’t in my self-interest and given love/money even when I didn’t have any spare for myself. Love is acting when your survival is threatened because the other person needs it.
- Excessive worrying and overthinking – This has been a difficult one for me. Since I am very imaginative, my creativity sometimes causes me to image things that aren’t true. I have to remind myself that just because I think it doesn’t mean its true. Feelings can trick you into believing they are true when they aren’t.
- Transactional relationships – People who network on LinkedIn just to get views rather to connect and help others. I have helped many of my LinkedIn contacts, even when I had never meet them before. I think the human race is helped by helping, and our failure to help others will hurt ourselves. I help whenever I can.
- Working without productivity – This kills me. When I am at a job and there are things being done that don’t help anyone, I have to question them. We only have so much time and wasting it on doing thing that don’t matter? What a pointless life that feels like. So many jobs I have done busywork that isn’t even looked at, optimized things that don’t matter, followed inefficient routines when I suggested more efficient ones. “No, that is the way we have always done things around here. No need to change.” Frustrating!
- Holding grudges and seeking revenge – Just hurts yourself. Even if you do get revenge on someone, so what? You can’t heal the world by hurting others.
- Living in the past or future – Can’t stay present because of the fantasy of the past or future? The present is always better than either of those.
- Trying to please everyone – You can’t make everyone happy so don’t try. I made mistake in the past and learned from it.