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Freakin’ Reviews on Youtube has great advice

I love watching product reviews. I blame it on all the infomercials I watched as a kid.

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I think Freakin Reviews is the best product reviewer on Youtube. I recently needed to replace some of my pillows and I thought why not try out some of his advice? I bought his top two suggestions for pillows. The Purple Pillow (flat non fluffy one), and the Coop adjustable pillow. They are both excellent. They are the two most comfortable pillows I have used, and James was right. For side sleepers like myself it really makes you feel great in the morning.

I suspected I may need a new pillow because I would often wake up with sore shoulders, neck, headaches or irritations of my skin and eyes. It turns out that also buying a silk pillowcase along with these pillows has been amazing. I wake up feeling even better than I usually do. If you wake up feeling unhappy you might want to try the combination of silk pillowcases and one of these two pillows.

Why am I sharing this with you? I don’t get a profit or benefit other than knowing that others can enjoy the same great sleep that I have enjoyed. One of the things I have always tried to do on this blog is to share the best of what has helped me. Not everyone will like my suggestions and thats ok. Different strokes for different folks as they say.

Watching product reviews is very interesting. Most of the time they show that advertisements lie and that the claims are exaggerated. Made for TV products in my experience are mostly garbage. It is fun to see what really works which is what i have learned from him. These were the first two things I bought on his suggestion, but based on this experience I might buy something else if I need it.

You can’t trust reviews from Amazon/Google. I find these real life experiments the most helpful to really know if it is right for me.

Speaking to another heart

In life we think that we can convince or influence others by talking about intellectual things or reasons. I learned long time ago this was a lie.

You only help someone to change and grow when they feel heard and understood. I spoke before about The 7 Habits of Highly effective people. “Seek first to understand, and then be understood.” You have to repeat back what the other person is saying and verify that you understand their point, and only then do you have a chance to explore the topic.

We use our hearts and minds for the wrong things too often. We try to use our mind to change someones heart. That doesn’t work. You have to inspire another heart to change by your own emotional reality and being open and vulnerable when it can lead to growth.

It is not our job to change people, and it is not our responsibility to shape others growth. All we can do is to share those experiences in our own lives that may be helpful to others when others are ready to hear it.

It takes emotional sensitivity and awareness to know when opening up to someone is a good idea. It has been my experience that when you share who you are first it gives others the confidence to also share who they are. Often others may not appreciate or want that connection. That is fine. Life is about balance and giving and taking.

To speak to someone’s heart you just need to be willing to not be the smartest person and laugh at your own mistakes. Trust me we all have plenty of things we do that are silly and laughable.