Go to System Preferences (under the apple) and Software Update is about the middle of the “Systems” line. On the bottom of the Pref panel for SW Update there are check boxes for checking automatically and downloading automatically. If you spend any significant amount of time attached via an expensive or slow connection, turn them both off.
I would turn off “download automatically” under any circumstances — when you are trying to do something and it runs really slowly, it’s pretty frustrating to realize that it’s because your computer was downloading 500MB of printer driver updates for a printer that broke and you threw in the trash two years ago!
Me too. I’m running a mid-2010 Mac Mini with 8GB RAM.
The first couple of times when I tried using the Software Update app, I couldn’t get the download to begin; after I clicked the Agree button, the dialog box closed, but the download never started. The Software Update app was still running, just not doing anything. I’d close the app and tray again with the same results.
Today I tried and the download did download and started to install. When it reach the ‘Registering components’ stage near the end, it appeared to hang at around 98% complete.
Because I was doing onther stuff on my computer, I let it sit there for about 40 minutes. Then, all of a sudden, it finished the install. I’ve opened iTunes and the ‘About’ box tells me I’m running iTunes 10 .4 (80) 64-bit.
I am watching a show called Clean House and often people say that keeping things “reminds them of a loved one”. I understand that people want to hold onto things they are used to, but at some point it gets more than a little silly.
I have seen people in my life hold onto things with the idea that they can fix it, sell it, or give it to someone. The funny thing is that they never do it. You know the more that I watch these kinds of shows (Hoarders) the more I see they are using junk as a proxy for their own unresolved emotions. I am not a therapist, but it seems clear that if you have an issue it seems more painful to avoid that issue than to tackle it head-on.
I just find mysterious how people make decisions. When someone has something in their life that is so painful, why wouldn’t you be motivated to fix it? I can understand that people feel frustrated, give up, or have low self-esteem. I get that. However at some point, you have to say to yourself that anything else must be better than the way things are at that point. That is the reasoning that I used to investigate the possibility that there might be another way to heal the allergies that I had at that point. I couldn’t believe that there wasn’t anything I could do other than take drugs. There is nothing wrong with drugs. I just tend to be sensitive and feel better avoiding them. So I looked and found NMT and now for the last ten years my life has been incredibly different. It has been wonderful.
I like watching these kind of shows that show people dealing with their issues and growing as people. To me, that is the point of life. You grow and become more than you used to be by doing what is sometimes difficult and uncomfortable. I have the most respect for those people who acknowledge their weaknesses and grow.
I have mentioned watching the Hoarders TV show before. I have been busy watching other episodes, and catching up with the seasons. I find them to be both disturbing and fascinating, but now I am wondering if reality TV is helpful or not.
It is certainly educational, and sometimes you can see things in people you know. What makes me concerned about reality TV is the effect it has on the person, and the effect it has on the watcher.
The effect on the person is that it is a public shaming. The long-term repercussions are that the person can sometimes be an object of ridicule, and their future relationships and job opportunities might be limited. In parties and conversation with others, Snooki for example seems to be an object of ridicule. While she and others in the cast are enjoying financial success they might otherwise not have had, I have to wonder if reality TV participants on the whole are worse off than before they were famous. The vast majority of reality TV stars we never hear anymore. What is Kevin from the Real World doing lately?
More directly, what is the effect on us for watching reality TV? Does watching the psychological issue of others help us to become more sensitive and caring to the needs of others? Or rather, and this is what I fear, does it make us feel hopeless to interact with these kind of people and immediately label them and expect only a professional to be a friend to them? I must admit that I would find it very challenging to be friends with a hoarders. Some of them seem like great people like Jim in a Season 2 episode. The challenge for me and many of us I feel is that the disgust we feel for the unsanitary and worthless nature of the stuff they keep. Sometimes I have to look away because it is so uninhabitable and impossible to imagine living in that.
I think the danger of reality TV is that our knee-jerk reaction is to label the people as lazy or stupid. I am not sure that being thoughtful and compassionate is a common knee jerk reaction. I have been guilty of thinking of Snooki in less than positive terms. TV is first a distortion medium. How can we trust the edits and staged sets of so-called “reality” TV? TV only shows us the most small part of someone, we are rarely able to honestly evaluate the information we are presented. I often think of an old quote when I deal with someone.
If we knew the tragedy in most people’s past, we would treat them differently.
I am not looking to make excuses for bad behavior. Everyone is responsible for their own behavior. I think another risk of reality TV is that it normalizes what is extreme behavior. Many behaviors are harmful to the person and others, and we as friends and family should call them out on that. If they don’t listen, we have done our part. At some point, behavior is unacceptable and codependent behavior is as sick as the people who are acting out.
This will probably be my last season of hoarders. I think I have learned what I can from this series. I would rather watch examples of healthy behavior than disturbed ones.
There is a TV show called Hoarders which is very sad. It shows the life of people who hoard things, and the reasons why they do that behavior. I have first-hand experience with hoarders. You can read the producers thoughts in this article.
I had a friend growing up who lived in a hoarders home. They lived in the poor section of town and the outside looked just like the inside. With limited funds I can see why people don’t want to throw things away. Another person was someone I knew and they also held on to everything. They even saved bits of string. I can see that people want to feel they have some control, and people who do this have multiple issues. They have good intentions, but somewhere their thinking becomes distorted. It is easy to identify bad thinking when it comes to stuff. I wish it were similarly easy to distinguish bad thinking when it comes to how we treat people.
I have used 3 laptops and all of them have had streaming issues with Netflix. My friend and I both have MacBook with 2GB of ram, and an older Dell Latitude.
I have done the normal troubleshooting steps. I have rebooted the computer, tried it with being minimized or maximized and experimented with different browsers. The worst browser on Mac seems to be Safari, then Firefox. The least problematic seems to be Chrome. Having the screen maximized seems to cause the most problem. Buffering it doesn’t seem to help. The Silverlight preferences don’t offer any help and I am using the newest version.
Jack LaLanne Made Longevity a Simple Science Singularity Hub – StumbleUpon. Interesting how his ideas are found to have scientific basis now. He was a great example to all of us.
