Tag: Risk

Finding a balance for sharing

Social media is helpful in many ways, but one of the dangers I think is the risk of oversharing. I think finding a balance for sharing is very important.

There are many reasons why oversharing is harmful both to the person sharing and those who read.

  1. You may be turned down for a loan. Banks and other financial organizations are looking at your social media account to learn about your personality. Why? One of the 3 C’s as we were told is character, and they want to see if not only you are responsible, but your friends are responsible. The theory is that if you have a friend who doesn’t pay a bill, you might be the same and the risk of lending to you in increased.
  2. There is no forget button. Whatever you share is forever on the Internet. It doesn’t matter if you delete the post, it will surely get archived and copied. You may feel good about something you share at the moment, but the future may have a different perspective on it. If you aren’t sure if you should share something, then don’t.
  3. Your words will come back to haunt you. I shared something once with the FCC when they sought public opinion on a decision they made. Ten years later when I googled my name it came to the top of the list. It wasn’t something that the FCC said they would share, but once I published it, it was out of my control. You should assume that anything you write on the Internet is public and part of the record forever.
  4. Your words can be used to harm others. You may write something with the intention of positive results, but as I said before positive intentions aren’t enough. There are tons of positive intentioned and ignorant people on the Internet. I try to write things that are supported by mainstream science, and not on any crazy fringe groups. However too often science discovers something new, and when that happens your advice is no longer accurate. So if you want to stand by your words, you need to constantly evaluate them with the new information that comes out daily and revise them when appropriate. Sadly 99% of people do not update their writing, so most information on the Internet is quickly outdated.

How do I manage these problems with what I write? I review things that I write everyday as part of the work of having this blog. I go through and try to delete articles that are no longer true or things that have a low interest by others. I always encourage the reader to challenge what I say, and the greatest compliment to me would be “I don’t agree with you, but it made me think.”

Everything in life has a balance, including sharing.

Stories from My Past: I am jealous of you

Going through pain and difficulty is hard, but ultimately there is a benefit.

I listened to a coworker once who had just lost his beloved pet. The dog died in his arms and he was stricken with grief. I could empathize since I had a rough pet death in the past too. One of my rescue dogs who had been abused before I got him bite me, and since I lived next to an elementary school where they played with the dogs through the fence, it wasn’t safe for him to stay there. I tried to call the other rescue but they had went out of business apparently. So I had no choice but to put the dog to sleep. It was rough knowing that I was the cause of his death, but the risk of having a child harmed left me with no choice.

Stories from My Past: I am jealous of youSo I said to my coworker “I am jealous of you.” and shared my short story. Being able to not have to choose that choice and having the pet die in your arms is difficult. The pet I had to put asleep died in my arms too and he looked so happy when it happened. I could not believe how quick it was. I asked the vet after she gave the shot if I could have some privacy and she agreed. It is hard to lose someone you love no matter what the circumstances.

So I listened to him and let him vent and share his feelings. He had a great attitude and shared all of the joy that his dog brought into his life for 10 years and it was remarkable what he shared. The reason I am sharing this with you now is that if that experience had not happened to me, I could not have been so sensitive to his suffering. We grow when we suffer with the outrageous slings and arrows in life as Billy would say.

Pain can kill our soul or enhance it. Choose wisely.

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