I have had friends who are depressed and the classic signs is that they sleep often, have negative self-image, use addictive behaviors, feelings of no hope, anger, loss of energy, self-loathing, so on. It is really amazing how many very talented and wonderful people feel bad about themselves and kill themselves because of it. It must be hard when you are so talented that others don’t always appreciate you, or their jealously makes you feel bad about yourself. I have learned that in life when others don’t respect me its time to move on, and not try to apply their issues to my sense of self.
I had someone tell me once that the way that someone treats you says everything about their personality and nothing about you. They don’t know you, so their way of treating you is only their fantasy and understanding of who you are. So if someone is not respectful to me, then I move on to someone who is respectful. Make sense?
Some mystical orders have claimed that the energy that is not spent in procreation can be channeled for spiritual growth. People make interesting choices don’t they? Some studies show that women who get married tend to live shorter lives while men live longer lives. So there is some proof that women get the short end of the stick. However, it is also true that men are more likely to die at every stage of life, so I’m not sure that being one gender is more advantageous than the other.
It is kind of funny isn’t it? Too often you hear men and women complain about each other and the stereotypes that each gender faces. It is true that we have thoughtless and cruel people in our lives who make us suffer because of our gender. However it isn’t personal. I had a wise person tell me once that how someone treats you says everything about their own personality and nothing about you. They don’t know you, so how could it be about you? I wonder why people try to hurt each other when they would benefit far more by helping each other. That is one of the mysteries of the human condition. We know that we should cooperate, yet we find every reason to not cooperate. Strange species aren’t we?