Stories from my Past: Having something unusual makes people laugh

Often all you have to do to make people laugh is have something unusual or different, and you can make people laugh. I bought a lunchbox once that was made for kids because it was insulated and cheap. Often people would laugh at the surprise of an adult having a fun lunchbox. Making people’s day sometimes doesn’t even require an effort, it just requires the courage to be different.

Having something different or unusual is better than just making people laugh. It shows that you aren’t afraid to be different, and projects confidence in who you are. When I was growing up I asked for a briefcase for my books, so I carried a briefcase to school during high school. I thought it was easier than a backpack, and let me be more organized. I loved it. My classmates though it was fun as well. They used to joke about my carrying all kind of contraband inside, and it provided a ton of laughter for everyone. It also was something that was fun to use. It was something that helped me express my uniqueness and it provided a contrast when I would have surprising and silly objects inside.

Unusual things also provide another benefit. They provide an easy conversation piece, and provide a unique perspective on your personality. I once shared an elevator with a woman who had very unique jewelry and I asked if was ethnic and it was. It showed that she traveled, had great taste, and was confident in being different. Clothes do not make the man, but they provide a sense of the interior person. It is a calling card to be different, as long as you are accessible and not scary as well. For example, I didn’t grow up around Goth people so when I first encountered one I was intrigued. It was something unique that I could appreciate.

It is funny isn’t it? People don’t want to stand out, but they don’t want to be anonymous either. People can’t really decide what they want, but we always think that happiness is in having something we don’t have/aren’t are. I have learned that only by accepting who I am, have I really been happy.

Study shows that all you really need to know you learned in Kindergarten

Kindergarteners’ social-emotional skills are a significant predictor of their future education, employment and criminal activity, among other outcomes, according to a study.

Source: Early prosocial behavior good predictor of kids’ future — ScienceDaily

So the skills you learned in kindergarten make a huge difference in your life. Maybe you learned them at home before coming to kindergarten. Either way, your early personality shapes your future in powerful ways.

Even more interesting, our behavior can be shaped by our experiences in the womb. Isn’t it amazing that we are so sensitive to our world and responsive to it?

Probably few adults remember their kindergarten years but I remember mine clearly. I remember how fun it was to learn new things like to tie my shoes. Simple skills that made you more like a big person. It is wonderful isn’t it how children are curious and want to grow and become? You really have to be determined and have good mentors to maintain that curiosity and love of learning into your adult years.

The article states things like: helping others, resolving peer conflict, sharing materials as signs of pro-social skills that help people achieve and be happy in life. I always wondered why these skills weren’t taught directly in school. The world which has issues cries out for peacemakers, mediators and skillful problem solvers. It isn’t that people don’t know what to do, it’s just that they don’t or can’t get past the emotional blocks that are holding them back. This was one of the most frustrating things I see with self-aware people. They know what they are doing isn’t helping them, but they continue to do it. Why? The mystery of why we hurt ourselves is a complex one.

Sometimes being pro-social with others is first being pro-social and helping yourself. If you didn’t learn that in kindergarten it’s not too late to learn now.