I was talking to a woman the other day who I see every week. We discuss a wide variety of issues. One of the topics was flirtatious behavior. Now I should say that this woman is attractive, and shows a fair amount of her body. She is also engaged to be married, and is two weeks away from the date.
I had just shared with her a clumsy attempt by a woman to flirt with me, and she said something quite surprising. She said “I get flirted with all the time. I get tired of it and even get angry when people flirt with me.” I was a little stunned. I didn’t say anything but she continued to talk about her life with her man.
I had to think about this a little more. Granted some women probably get hit on all the time. Granted that anything that is done frequently can be boring. Granted that her line of work in a spa is going to put her in contact with many people. However, and this is where I am confused, why would you get angry?
I guess people get angry when they feel frustrated like she did that everyone wants her. I wouldn’t mind that problem. Isn’t it strange sometimes, that people seem to complain no matter how good they have it in their life? Don’t misunderstand this as a criticism of her. Everyone has the right to feel whatever they want. I just try to put myself in someone else’s place when I listen to them, and for me, being flirted with constantly would be a fun experience and not a painful one.
If I go back into my past further, I actually worked on a job once with several women and I was the only man there. It was a manual labor job and all of us flirted with each other. I didn’t find that job to make me angry in the least. Of course I hear you saying, of course because you are a man. However, we are all individuals and that isn’t fair to say. If we don’t stereotype others, we have a richer life by giving people the space to be themselves.
So I gave those women the space to be themselves, and they flirted with me. This is not to brag, but just to share that for the 12 hours a day I worked with them and the several months they were on my team things went well. Anger was the furthest thing from my mind. I was grateful to get the opportunity to learn more about them and to respect who they were as a person.
But what do I know?
Against the Smartphone Thinness Fetish – Robert Wright – Technology – The Atlantic. I guess that functionality does win over form after all. I don’t see this any different from how society tells us we should view women. If our women are thin, why not our technology? Is more gained or lost in wanting to be thin? In many ways being thin can work against women such as heavier women surviving surgeries better. Perhaps we need to not apply such broad brushstrokes of want in our lives.
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