You can’t hide what is inside. Of course, not everyone is mature and curious enough to see who you are so that is part of the problem in life.

It never fails to surprise me when I do nothing, and it seems to be the most effective thing I can do. For example, some of my highest rated views were days in which I didn’t post anything. In the same idea, I am trying an idea I read on a marketing blog where it said that one “solid” and long post beats any number of shorter ones. So we will see what the people want.

Going back to the idea of doing nothing, I think it has to do with balance. I tend to do things and expect results. Makes sense right? Well it also seems to be that silence and non-action used at key times is more effective than action. For example, interviewers are trained to ask questions and then wait for the answer. In some cases silence speaks volumes.

Many times I have been in the public and haven’t said a word and people start talking to me. I don’t remember smiling or giving them acknowledgement before they speak, but people seem to want to interact with me. I’m not complaining, it just is surprising the forms it takes. If I am inside a store and people will assume I work there and ask me where the shorts are. Or one time I was standing on the street corner, and one person after the other asked me where something was. Another time I was on the train and I was information central for people who wanted to sit by me and share things about their life.

I am sharing this to show that I didn’t do anything to start or open the door consciously. Yet there was something about me that made people feel comfortable approaching me. This happens the more that I find joy and happiness in my daily life. I can’t say what people find attractive about me, but I do know that as you grow people notice without words.

Maybe this is just a byproduct of culture. Culture often uses words to communicate but the most important ways to communicate don’t use words. It has been my experience when I had dogs that if I pictured in my mind what I wanted them to do, they seemed to understand. I would think about taking them for a walk, and I wouldn’t have moved from the couch and they started to get excited. How could they tell from the gleam in my eye? Why are beings able to do this? Rupert Sheldrake explained in a book called Dogs That Know When Their Owners Are Coming Home: And Other Unexplained Powers of Animals [Paperback] I read and liked that book.

Part of writing these posts is to further consider what life is teaching me. I often think of the saying “When the student is ready, the teacher appears.” I have noticed in my life that I am given the lesson until I learn it. It is not a hard lesson, but it is often easier in the short-term ignoring the message. I think what this lesson is saying to me is that being balanced should be my first priority. Not overdoing or under-doing things. That everything has a rhythm in life and to follow and flow is always better than to fight against the current.