New equipment sometimes means hurt feelings

New equipment sometimes means hurt feelings.

Let me give you an example. I once worked at a company that was pretty cheap. They didn’t spend money on regularly refreshing their equipment, so it was years old and very slow.

One day I was asked to upgrade some people to have two monitors instead of a tiny 15 inch one they had. As I did this, many people asked me if they were getting a monitor. I said that I had a list and only the people on the list got one. So there were lots of hurt feelings because they didn’t feel important enough to get a second monitor.

So guess what? A few days later one of the older monitors breaks. Now in any other company this would be an opportunity to just upgrade it with the new larger monitor. However in this case the political climate was to get the permission of their manager so that any hurt feelings could be addressed before this was done. Interesting isn’t it? Normally you would just replace something that is broken and let people deal with it as best they can.

In one way this is nice. It is nice that a company is aware of peoples feelings. In another way this is kind of treating people like children. Children don’t have the emotional capability of regulating their feelings like adults show, so you have to treat them more gently than an adult.

Of course the next day the monitor got replaced. However I see this happen in every company. Once someone gets something, everyone else seems to need it too.

It is a fascinating thing to watch. The person with the broken monitor said how terrible it would be if her monitor broke. Now that it did, she seemed kind of upset and nervous about the attention she would attract. She did attract attention.

It is ok to have feelings at work. However if your neighbor gets a new monitor or whatever, it doesn’t mean that you are less valuable. It just means people make decisions for reasons we aren’t always aware of.

Real life superhero in NYC giving to others

This is a touching story about a real life superhero in NYC giving to others.

Why am I sharing this? It is touching that the values of sharing and caring for others cause people to do these kind of things. We can help in our own way. It is neat that he took something that may people consider a negative or problem and turned it into a positive.

One of the things that he has said in other documentaries is that he gives and goes out and helps people when he doesn’t have work. He works as a video producerĀ and when he doesn’t have work then he helps others. I think most people would would work part time would feel desperate for money and not consider helping others to fill their time.

It is surprising isn’t it the way that people interpret life? We think that we see life as it is, but we can only see it through our own experiences. I think for this reason it is crucial to listen to others. We have to be able to understand and appreciate other points of view, even if we don’t agree with them.

If you are a regular reader you have heard me talk about this before. Sharing, kindness, listening all bring meaning to our lives. Its ok if you don’t agree with this. Its ok if you live your life as if those things don’t matter. We all choose our experiences and my values are not your values.

So then why share this? It is to show that for many people their deepest and most meaningful experiences are those with a sense of connection. It is community I feel that we lack in the United States with our overemphasis on individualism. Individualism is fine and its great to do your own thing, but it is also ok to be part of something larger than yourself too.

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