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Finding a balance for sharing

Social media is helpful in many ways, but one of the dangers I think is the risk of oversharing. I think finding a balance for sharing is very important.

There are many reasons why oversharing is harmful both to the person sharing and those who read.

  1. You may be turned down for a loan.¬†Banks and other financial organizations are looking at your social media account to learn about your personality. Why? One of the 3 C’s as we were told is character, and they want to see if not only you are responsible, but your friends are responsible. The theory is that if you have a friend who doesn’t pay a bill, you might be the same and the risk of lending to you in increased.
  2. There is no forget button. Whatever you share is forever¬†on the Internet. It doesn’t matter if you delete the post, it will surely get archived and copied. You may feel good about something you share at the moment, but the future may have a different perspective on it. If you aren’t sure if you should share something, then don’t.
  3. Your words will come back to haunt you. I shared something once with the FCC when they sought public opinion on a decision they made. Ten years later when I googled my name it came to the top of the list. It wasn’t something that the FCC said they would share, but once I published it, it was out of my control. You should assume that anything you write on the Internet is public and part of the record forever.
  4. Your words can be used to harm others. You may write something with the intention of positive results, but as I said before positive intentions aren’t enough. There are tons of positive intentioned and ignorant people on the Internet. I try to write things that are supported by mainstream science, and not on any crazy fringe groups. However too often science discovers something new, and when that happens your advice is no longer accurate. So if you want to stand by your words, you need to constantly evaluate them with the new information that comes out daily and revise them when appropriate. Sadly 99% of people do not update their writing, so most information on the Internet is quickly outdated.

How do I manage these problems with what I write? I review things that I write everyday as part of the work of having this blog. I go through and try to delete articles that are no longer true or things that have a low interest by others. I always encourage the reader to challenge what I say, and the greatest compliment to me would be “I don’t agree with you, but it made me think.”

Everything in life has a balance, including sharing.

Why do we binge watch?

I am writing this as I am binge watching SG1 so it inspired me.

Binge watching has been claimed by various studies to both be good and harmful to us. In the good column is a study that showed that watching the same episode again lead to relaxation. In the harmful column is a study that shows that people who are depressed or lonely watch lots of tv shows.

So what is the truth? I think the truth is that many people are depressed and lonely and that this is just another sign of it. I think that the reason that people use drugs, do dangerous things and not take care of themselves is a lack of self-love.

Is this really a surprise? In a culture where we are judged by our possessions and outward appearances, that people would feel that they can’t measure up? How can we say that capitalism is not without its harmful effects? What is a reasonable standard of living? Is it one in which we have our needs meet, or one in which we continuously need more to feel good?

So binge watching is just another way for a culture of excess to express itself. It used to be with radio shows that you would gather around the radio at night to listen to the radio show. It was your imagination and it was the highlight of peoples entertainment at the time. Now we have multimedia in a way that previous generations can’t even conceive like VR and we are still record rates of unhappiness.

I think we binge watch because we are trying to fill a bottomless need. We feel that we need to consume, to always experience variety to be happy. What I have learned is that often I am the happiest when I am not trying to be happy. It sounds strange I know, but to give up your sense of wanting to be happy enables you to be happy.

Happiness it not in doing something, it is in being something. Just be comfortable with being who you are and you can take or leave binge watching.

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