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New equipment sometimes means hurt feelings

New equipment sometimes means hurt feelings.

Let me give you an example. I once worked at a company that was pretty cheap. They didn’t spend money on regularly refreshing their equipment, so it was years old and very slow.

One day I was asked to upgrade some people to have two monitors instead of a tiny 15 inch one they had. As I did this, many people asked me if they were getting a monitor. I said that I had a list and only the people on the list got one. So there were lots of hurt feelings because they didn’t feel important enough to get a second monitor.

So guess what? A few days later one of the older monitors breaks. Now in any other company this would be an opportunity to just upgrade it with the new larger monitor. However in this case the political climate was to get the permission of their manager so that any hurt feelings could be addressed before this was done. Interesting isn’t it? Normally you would just replace something that is broken and let people deal with it as best they can.

In one way this is nice. It is nice that a company is aware of peoples feelings. In another way this is kind of treating people like children. Children don’t have the emotional capability of regulating their feelings like adults show, so you have to treat them more gently than an adult.

Of course the next day the monitor got replaced. However I see this happen in every company. Once someone gets something, everyone else seems to need it too.

It is a fascinating thing to watch. The person with the broken monitor said how terrible it would be if her monitor broke. Now that it did, she seemed kind of upset and nervous about the attention she would attract. She did attract attention.

It is ok to have feelings at work. However if your neighbor gets a new monitor or whatever, it doesn’t mean that you are less valuable. It just means people make decisions for reasons we aren’t always aware of.

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Interesting TV show called Limitless

I’ve been watching an interesting TV show called Limitless. It has a realistic view of technology.

I like the show because it has the idea of someone getting smarter by taking a pill called NZT. This pill not only makes him smarter but also better memory, reaction and ability to sense. It really would be an upgrade for anyone.

It is interesting isn’t it that as a society we have a show that celebrates being smart as a weapon? Is this what we value as a society? Do we think that our intelligence is something that will create a better society?

Intelligence seems like it is the solution to problems doesn’t it? You just understand something and then the problem is fixed right? Yet we know as a society about consequences and results, and yet we continue to act in ways that show the opposite of intelligence.

For example, we know that science says that global warming causes sea level rise. Yet we have people in positions of power who are not acting on that but on the opposite of that. Rather than avoid fossil fuels and carbon emissions, they want to increase carbon emissions and avoid progress in eliminating carbon.

So how can we as a society say we value education and intelligence, and yet act in such stupid ways? I think the problem is not that we don’t understand the problem, but that we don’t have the emotional maturity to act on the difficult work to solve the problem.

So taking global warming for example we don’t want to buy efficient cars because we feel an SUV is easier. We don’t want to reduce our electricity consumption because we feel we need big homes and expensive things to be happy. Rather than look at what science says makes people happy we stubbornly cling to our ideas that happiness is in material things.

Its ok if you think that an SUV will make you happier. I’m not going to tell you not to buy one. Buy one, and when you aren’t happier maybe you will make a different decision the next time.

I don’t think intelligence is the answer, I think wisdom is the answer.

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