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Online dating scammers looking for money, not love

 

NEW YORK, NY - JUNE 06:  Rep. Anthony Weiner (...
NEW YORK, NY - JUNE 06: Rep. Anthony Weiner (D-NY) admits to having numerous sexual relationships online while married during a press conference at the Sheraton Hotel on 7th Avenue on June 6, 2011 in New York City. Weiner said he had not met any of the women in person but had numerous sexual relationships online while married. (Image credit: Getty Images via @daylife)

Online dating scammers looking for money, not love. I have experienced this in the past as well. The most popular thing is someone saying that they saw your ad on a dating site and they find you incredibly attractive. If that isn’t a red flag, I don’t know what is.

Then they usually write you so much detail about themselves and ask you to contact them back. An attractive and often revealing photo of themselves is included and they act as though they are local to where you live. Spelling and grammar is usually bad and other obvious errors show.

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Study: Online Dating Makes People “Unrealistic”

 

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Study: Online Dating Makes People \. This is an interesting meta-analysis of over 400 studies. I have seen this as true with my experience of dating sites. It is especially funny that the pickiest people tend to be the most undesirable and average.

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Stories of my past: I noticed you called

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I had a surprising phone call once from a woman who I had briefly meet while dating. I hadn’t talked to her for more than six months, and out of the blue she calls me. She explains to me “I noticed you had called me a few times” and said other things. I had clearly not called her several times, because I don’t push myself on anyone. If they aren’t interested, I just let them go.

I am sharing this now because it is surprising how often people feel that they can lie to you and you won’t care. I do care about the truth, especially in relationships. I don’t think that you can tell the truth all of the time, because there are things that people do not have the right or need to know. For example, if I had a medical problem my friends don’t need to know the full extent of it. I think that we should only share as much as we feel other people can accept and deal with. Anything more is kind of pushing them to adopt our values.

What do you think?

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Things I’m not sure you should say: Fixer upper

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Sometimes you really don’t know what to do when someone says something crazy, so you just try to ignore it. Sometimes it is hard to forgive thoughtless statements. Here is something that I heard two people in a relationship say in a coffee place. I don’t try to listen, people talk very loud when talking about personal things too often.

The Man: “So what do you think of seeing each other on a more serious basis?”

The Female: “I don’t know. I don’t think that I am in the place in my life for a serious relationship right now.”

The Man: “Well you have potential. I have looked at homes lately and some of them are broken down and need work. You can be my fixer upper girlfriend.”

The Female: (Stunned and doesn’t know what to say)

I got up and left. I don’t need to hear any more.

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