Probably the biggest thing to be gained from this is that you should be aware of the risks of being single. Of course there are risks of being married as well. I find it interesting when in the stories people who had bad experiences allow that fear of loss to stop them from trying again. People are individuals, and what happened to them in the past isn’t a guarantee it will happen again. Hopefully we grow as people and make better choices.
The majority of reviewers rated this book positively, but I also agree with the few who rated it negatively. I can see that his bias of being married affected the way he approached this. I don’t think he had an agenda, but his personal values shined through the work. I am not judging him, but his attempt to be impartial was more imagined than real.
It is great that you acknowledge your bias, but it is better when you find a way to work against it. I like the scientific idea that you try to disprove something. I have found that challenging or disproving beliefs to be incredibly helpful. What seems on the surface to be true, is often not true. Take for example what color the sun is. I just learned recently that the sun isn’t yellow. All of my life I thought it was yellow. Apparently if it were yellow then the clouds would be yellow as well. I didn’t think it through but after reading that scientific explanation it makes sense. The way things appear to be are rarely the way things really are.
What is interesting is that LDAP historically has been little used compared to Active Directory. The perception that AD was easier to use always gave Microsoft an advantage. I used LDAP at a few companies I worked at and I found it easy to use. I like the Open Authentication of the Mac OS Server as well. I thought that was even easier than Active Directory. I hope that we can retire AD soon. The days of having local windows servers seems like it should have been over a decade ago.
The main problem with having local IT services and hardware is that there is a tremendous cost to companies to maintain all of that infrastructure. With the low costs of cloud computing it doesn’t make sense anymore. Take for example Amazons unlimited data backup storage for $60 they recently announced. No IT company can compete with that. So it would be foolish not to use it. I am not going to use it because I don’t trust Amazon with my data, but other people might be much better served by that. With all the free plans and offerings by companies, you can almost exist without paying anything to anyone anymore for any computer services. It is really incredible how competitive computer services are.