New equipment sometimes means hurt feelings

New equipment sometimes means hurt feelings.

Let me give you an example. I once worked at a company that was pretty cheap. They didn’t spend money on regularly refreshing their equipment, so it was years old and very slow.

One day I was asked to upgrade some people to have two monitors instead of a tiny 15 inch one they had. As I did this, many people asked me if they were getting a monitor. I said that I had a list and only the people on the list got one. So there were lots of hurt feelings because they didn’t feel important enough to get a second monitor.

So guess what? A few days later one of the older monitors breaks. Now in any other company this would be an opportunity to just upgrade it with the new larger monitor. However in this case the political climate was to get the permission of their manager so that any hurt feelings could be addressed before this was done. Interesting isn’t it? Normally you would just replace something that is broken and let people deal with it as best they can.

In one way this is nice. It is nice that a company is aware of peoples feelings. In another way this is kind of treating people like children. Children don’t have the emotional capability of regulating their feelings like adults show, so you have to treat them more gently than an adult.

Of course the next day the monitor got replaced. However I see this happen in every company. Once someone gets something, everyone else seems to need it too.

It is a fascinating thing to watch. The person with the broken monitor said how terrible it would be if her monitor broke. Now that it did, she seemed kind of upset and nervous about the attention she would attract. She did attract attention.

It is ok to have feelings at work. However if your neighbor gets a new monitor or whatever, it doesn’t mean that you are less valuable. It just means people make decisions for reasons we aren’t always aware of.

Being good is good enough

I have spoken about playing online video games before. I mentioned that many people play them so much that your skills are always weak in comparison. Now that I have had more experience with this, this is actually a helpful thing.

Why do I say this? I have been playing DC Online and since I haven’t been playing it as often as I did in the past, I was no longer at the top of the player skills. It takes constant attention of several hours a night to be at the top, and that is more than I want or enjoy. However what I have seen in being slightly below the top is that the very strong top players I benefit from in teamwork, and I have leveled up quicker than I did when I was playing it alone.

Being good is good enoughSo the formula for online gaming seems to be to play it enough to be in the top 25%, but not so much that you are always at the bleeding edge. In this way you have a group of people who are strong who help you level up quicker. For example, the last two times I have played my character has never leveled up so quickly. I was amazed. I don’t need to be at the top of my game to enjoy it.

That is the thing with men I think in particular. We like to feel we are at the top of our game, so we overdo things so that we achieve a kind of mastery that is unhelpful. Rather than spend all that time on this I have enjoyed doing other things. So that time in trying to go it alone and be independent and focus on myself is ultimately a waste of time.

The older I get, the more I see that focusing on the community ultimately helps individuals the most.

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