Gratitude, not ‘gimme,’ makes for more satisfaction, study finds — ScienceDaily. Want to be happy? Have a balance between thinking of yourself and others. I have found that the more I am a giver, the happier I am. It is hard work trying to be a matcher and keep track of others contributions to my life. Plus when they don’t give what I think they should, then I would get unhappy. Being a taker is no fun either. It quickly ruins your relationships.