Study shows that all you really need to know you learned in Kindergarten

Kindergarteners’ social-emotional skills are a significant predictor of their future education, employment and criminal activity, among other outcomes, according to a study.

Source: Early prosocial behavior good predictor of kids’ future — ScienceDaily

So the skills you learned in kindergarten make a huge difference in your life. Maybe you learned them at home before coming to kindergarten. Either way, your early personality shapes your future in powerful ways.

Even more interesting, our behavior can be shaped by our experiences in the womb. Isn’t it amazing that we are so sensitive to our world and responsive to it?

Probably few adults remember their kindergarten years but I remember mine clearly. I remember how fun it was to learn new things like to tie my shoes. Simple skills that made you more like a big person. It is wonderful isn’t it how children are curious and want to grow and become? You really have to be determined and have good mentors to maintain that curiosity and love of learning into your adult years.

The article states things like: helping others, resolving peer conflict, sharing materials as signs of pro-social skills that help people achieve and be happy in life. I always wondered why these skills weren’t taught directly in school. The world which has issues cries out for peacemakers, mediators and skillful problem solvers. It isn’t that people don’t know what to do, it’s just that they don’t or can’t get past the emotional blocks that are holding them back. This was one of the most frustrating things I see with self-aware people. They know what they are doing isn’t helping them, but they continue to do it. Why? The mystery of why we hurt ourselves is a complex one.

Sometimes being pro-social with others is first being pro-social and helping yourself. If you didn’t learn that in kindergarten it’s not too late to learn now.

Stories from my Past: That would be fantastic!

Many times people complain about what they don’t know and but mysteriously don’t have time to learn new skills. I worked in a company once where two people complained that they didn’t know something very well and since I was familiar with it, I offered to answer their questions and teach them. They both seemed excited and said that they would let me know tomorrow when we could start. One even said to me “That would be fantastic!”

It turns out that they never followed up on learning the programs. Even though their current way of doing things was causing them problems, for them, it was “good enough”. I find this curious. If you complain about not knowing something, and have the opportunity to learn something that could save you time and effort why not?

It is interesting isn’t it? One of the principles is to always “sharpen the saw”. You want your tool that you work with to be as sharp as possible so it is an easy and useful tool. Yet when it comes to thinking and learning, some people have decided that they are going to learn as little as possible to get by. No one said change is easy, but it seems to me that doing the same inefficient thing for years is an unnecessary way to suffer.

Well whatever. If someone wants to do things the hard way when they have been told there is an easier way, ultimately that is their choice. It is a curious choice though isn’t it?